I got back from NY earlier today, and had a chance to reflect on the past couple of days. I really enjoyed Rashad & Neene’s wedding immensely. Not just because they’re my friends, but because it really was a life lesson on love and friendships.
I arrived on Saturday and they came and scooped me from LaGuardia. I haven’t seen them in person since 2007, but it was like picking up where we left off! Big hugs and smiles. I met Neene’s little brother, a med school student. He had me in stitches all afternoon.
We rode to the bank and then to check on the flowers for the ceremony. Our bouquets and the center pieces were beautiful! Shades of lavender and purple flowers, mixed with cream and green. The flower vendor was efficient and professional.
After that, we headed to the hotel. Luckily, our rooms were ready for early check in. I had a huge king sized bed. And that shower? If I coulda fit that shower head in my suitcase…it was perfect for washing my locs! LOL! When I buy a house I MUST get one of those.
Last year, I became friends with the matron of honor on FB, but I’d never met her in person before Saturday. But you know what? I wasn’t worried about meeting anyone. The bride and groom are two of the nicest people I know. I mean, seriously. Loyal friends who aren’t dramatic and don’t invite drama into their lives. They are giving and honest, and as the best man said, they both got your back, as long as its not a WWE night. LOL!
Not only did the bride treat us to manis and pedis, she also gave us individual tote bags with customized gifts. I almost wish I had checked a bag, because the shower gel and lotion were too big for me to bring back. She took the time to give us presents based on what she knows about us. I loved everything. The argan oil mixture smells divine.
On the day of the wedding, I decided that if I had a wedding, I might want the matron of honor, Maggie, to be my wing man. She squelched all dramatic flare ups (including an evil petticoat), and I felt like if somebody needed punching in the face, she woulda handled that too. That’s the kind of friend you need on your wedding day! (I have no doubt my BFF would be the same way, lol)
The groom has been my ace since college. We met freshman year and have been keeping each other in stitches since we first watched Beavis and Butthead together. He also was the only one who supported my insatiable Dairy Queen habit…which is a whole other blog. I was excited to meet the best man because I’ve heard about him for years…I can totally see why they have been friends.
The best man is a bit of a jokester, but his speech at the wedding as really moving. He talked about how Rashad’s mom and grandmother did such a good job with raising him into the man and friend he’s become, and how he just wanted to thank them.
I think I cried at least 3 times during the ceremony and the reception. The bride and groom wrote their own vows. Usually when that happens, the bride has no problems writing them out and the groom is usually the one struggling, but I don’t get the sense that Rashad struggled at all. He talked about when he first met Neene and how he thought she was out of his league, but the part that really got me was when he recalled a conversation with his mom (who I LOVE by the way). He said she asked him if he wanted to settle down and get into a serious relationship, and he said yes.
SO THEY PRAYED ON IT. TOGETHER. And then he met his future wife.
I had no tissue with me. None. Totally unprepared for the tears that were streaming down my face. I tried to be incog-negro and wipe them away but they just kept coming. I realllly hope the photographer and videographer were otherwise occupied.
At the reception, I was going to be seated at a table with two of our old college buddies and their wives. Before we were announced, I checked the place card table and neither of them had picked up their cards. I was kinda bummed. I came out of the bridal suite and was talking to other members of the bridal party, when all of a sudden I heard that familiar voice – Mike! I ran over and he grabbed me up in a big bear hug. I haven’t seen him since 1997. We refer to each other as cousins since we have the same last name. It was just so great to see him and meet his beautiful wife.
I won’t bore you with any more details, but suffice it to say, I just felt my heart bursting with joy the entire day, even when my feet hurt (they still hurt. Stupid – but gorgeous – 4.5 inch heels). LOL! Old friends. New friends. Family. You could tell that this couple has an awesome support system and that will go a long way. Everyone there loved them and was so happy for them. It’s really hard to put into words. It’s honestly one of the best weddings I’ve ever been to.
You need love. You need friends. If you don’t have either one of those things, run out and get some. Stat.